Domestic Spillover & Workplace Violence

Domestic Spillover – How it relates to Workplace Violence.

“It’s Not Going To Happen To Me” is a poor security plan!!!

Since founding the Shaffer Security Group in 2015, Shaffer has worked with many organizations not only to conduct security assessments but also to develop and implement security solutions through training in active shooter response and workplace violence prevention.

Shaffer notes that there are some clear distinctions in culture across industries that allow some to be better prepared for a violent situation in the workplace. He notes, “Most manufacturing facilities and large workshops do a fantastic job of making ‘Safety First.’ They often post large signs to remind their employees to ‘Think Safety’ as they count the number of days without a work-related injury. However, most non-manufacturing firms, such as corporate offices, law firms, [or] large data processing centers do not feel that safety is all that necessary, when in fact it is essential.”

There appears to be a pervasive attitude in industries without a baked-in safety and security culture, with both leadership and employees focusing on physical security only after a critical incident occurs. Shaffer frames this attitude simply: “Everyone thinks, ‘it’s not going to happen to me.’”

The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that approximately 2 million people will be victims of nonfatal workplace violence each year, with about 1,000 people dying due to a violent incident at work. While these numbers suggest that a violent workplace event is unlikely, that unlikelihood does not excuse employers from prioritizing the security of their employees, regardless of industry. Shaffer says that “the safety and well-being of employees needs to become a communicated corporate value.”

“It’s Not Going To Happen to Me” is not a good security plan, states Shaffer.

Firms Need to Develop a “Portal” in which their Employees can reports incidents of Domestic Violence or Abuse.

Another hurdle employers have to overcome is the fact their employees who are victims of domestic abuse are frequently reluctant to share their circumstances. This reluctance is driven, in part, by the stigma associated with being a domestic abuse victim. Even worse, the victim may actually believe that their abuse is deserved.

Companies need to implement a workplace violence policy that includes language addressing domestic spillover is a great way to start. Regular review of this policy with employees can help to alleviate concerns.

These policies must be endorsed and communicated from the top down. For the policies to have real effect, there must not only be C-suite buy-in and implementation, but the employees must sincerely believe that their workplace is a safe haven.

Some questions for security leaders to ask themselves:

    • Does our organization have a mechanism by which the victim can report domestic abuse?
    • Are our reception, security, human resources, and legal staff aware of domestic spillover threats? Could they recognize those threats if they walked in the door?
    • Does our organization have intervention-capable employees trained to help diffuse conflicts or violence?
    • What are our legal requirements to protect our employees?
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Avoiding Violence – How to recognize it before it happens!

Recognizing Pre-Incident Indicators to Violence could save your life!

“The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence” is a nonfiction, self-help book written by Gavin de Becker. The book demonstrates how every individual should learn to trust the inherent “gift” of their gut instinct or intuition. By learning to recognize various warning signs and precursors to violence, it becomes possible to avoid violence.

The Gift of Fear spent four months on The New York Times Bestseller List and was a #1 National Bestseller. It has been published in 14 languages. The book was endorsed by a wide variety of celebrities, including Oprah Winfrey. Oprah dedicated an hour-long show on the books 10th anniversary.

The book explores various settings where violence may be found—the workplace, the home, the school, dating—and describes what de Becker calls pre-incident indicators (PINS). When properly identified, these PINS can help violence be avoided. When violence is unavoidable it can usually be predicted and better understood.

The Pre-Incident Indicators include:

Forced Teaming.  This is when a person implies that they have something in common with their chosen victim. For instance, acting as if they have a shared predicament when that isn’t really true. Speaking in “we” terms is a mark of this, i.e. “We don’t need to talk outside… Let’s go in.”


Charm and Niceness.  This is being polite and friendly to a chosen victim in order to manipulate him or her by disarming their mistrust.


Too many details.   If a person is lying they will add excessive details to make themselves sound more credible to their chosen victim.


Typecasting.   An insult is used to get a chosen victim who would otherwise ignore one to engage in conversation to counteract the insult. For example: “Oh, I bet you’re too stuck-up to talk to a guy like me.” The tendency is for the chosen victim to want to prove the insult untrue.


Loan Sharking.   Giving unsolicited help to the chosen victim and anticipating they’ll feel obliged to extend some reciprocal openness in return.


The Unsolicited Promise.   A promise to do (or not do) something when no such promise is asked for; this usually means that such a promise will be broken. For example: an unsolicited, “I promise I’ll leave you alone after this,” usually means the chosen victim will not be left alone. Similarly, an unsolicited “I promise I won’t hurt you” usually means the person intends to hurt their chosen victim.


Discounting the Word “No”.  Refusing to accept rejection; not recognizing the word “NO”.

The book, “The Gift of Fear” is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child before they go off to college or move out on their own. This book will change their lives in understanding their own “Intuition”, instinct or “Gift of Fear”.

Survival Mindset

Survival is not a Skill Set, it is a Mindset!  All the skills in the world will not help you survive if you’re not mentally prepared to use those skills to deliver painful or lethal force.

Expert Marksman Clint Smith, Founder of the “Thunder Ranch”, former U.S. Marine and a shooting expert is famous for his humorous, yet thoughtful, quotes on “Gunfighting”.  One of my favorites is:  “If you find yourself in a fair gunfight, you’re not cheating hard enough”.

No truer words have ever been spoken.  There are no “rules” in a fight for life or death!  You do everything in your power to win that fight.  If you lose,… it will be the last poor decision (and only decision) you will ever make.  To lose, is to die!  Another “Clint-ism” is:  “The two most important rules in a gunfight are; always cheat and always win.”

So, this brings me to my next point,…. are you prepared to cheat & to win? Are you mentally able to do whatever it takes to survive?  Have you rehearsed it in your mind, or “role played” how you would survive?  Have you consciously said aloud, “I will take the pen that fell to the floor and stick it in my adversary’s eye until it disappears into his brain?”  Do you have the mindset to do heinous things to another human being in order to survive?

If you’re honest with yourself, you will probably answer like most of my students and say “No”.  I have had hardened SWAT cops, Counter Terrorism Operators and about 99.9% of my civilian students answer “no”.  When it comes right down to it,… if you’re not willing to prepare your mind and your body to say:  “Yes, I have the mindset and the ability to do heinous things to another human being in order to survive”; then you might as well give up now! For when the day comes when you are faced with fighting for your life – you will lose, you will die, because you weren’t ready, willing, and capable of extreme, no rules, stick-a-pen-in-the-eye violence.

SSG can help you mentally and physically prepare you for your worst nightmare.  We can instill the “Warrior Mindset” with training, practice, confidence, a little homework, some reading and most of all a ‘skill set’. SSG will design a personal protection course designed for your lifestyle, for your capabilities, for your life.  Contact us today for a free consultation.

Terrorist are using Drug Smugglers to Enter the U.S.

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Officials Warn Sunni Extremist infiltrating US with help from Drug Smugglers

Sunni extremist are infiltrating the United States with the help of alien smugglers in South America and are crossing U.S. bordrs with ease, according to a U.S. Southern Command Intelligence Report.

“In 2015, we saw a total of 331,000 illegal aliens enter the Southwestern border between the US and Mexico, of that we estimate more than 30,000 of those were from countries of terrorist concern.”

This one article alone should be enough for our citizens to rise up and demand tighter immigration enforcement (we don’t need tighter laws, they’re already in place, we just need an Administration willing to enforce the current laws). Which leads me to another ‘hot topic’ for me,… since when does the government get to tell our law enforcement officers which laws to enforce and which laws to ignore?  They don’t have that right! If the government does not want to enforce a particular law, then have the law changed through Congress.

This one article should be enough for our citizens to demand that a wall is built! Whether it is a 30 foot concrete wall or a virtual wall – I don’t care.  What I do care about is a Nation that does not control its borders is a Nation doomed.  Now don’t even talk to me about ‘we are a nation of immigrants,… blah, blah, blah.’ Those immigrants came here LEGALLY and acclimated and learned our culture, our language, embraced our way of life and were proud to become Americans!  Today’s ILLEGAL immigrants want nothing more than a handout, government assistance and have our government and our citizens acclimate and adapt to their culture.

We are the only civilized Country on earth that does not enforce immigration laws and allows the overstays to remain in-country without fear of retribution.  Enforce our laws!  Stop immigration from Countries known to be filled with terrorists!  Protect our Southern Border.  Do the Right Thing and the Common Sense Thing, before we lose our culture and the American way of life. God bless our Leaders and God bless the USA.


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